Gay Weddings Despite Same-Sex Marriage Ban

By: Greg Gullberg Email
By: Greg Gullberg Email

- Tallahassee, Fl. - May 07, 2012 -

Same-sex marriage has taken hold in seven states in the union plus Washington D.C., but none anywhere near the south. Still some couples live together as though they are married, whether their state recognizes it or not.

Katie Becker is planning her dream wedding with her fiancee Erica by her side every step of the way.

But once they exchange vows and a kiss, they still won't be married. Because same-sex marriage is banned in Florida.

"It's about your relationship, not about a piece of paper," Katie said.

Katie and Erica have been a couple for two years. These two women live together in Tallahassee. They say they got engaged in February.

But after their wedding day, they'll join in a union that exists only in their minds. But don't tell them that.

"Most of our friends have had marriage ceremonies and to them it's very real; it's really important to them. They call each other their wives. They're just as committed and just as loving as any other couple I know," Katie said.

Florida voters passed a measure in 2008 legally banning gay marriage in the state. In Georgia there is no official ban, but it is still not allowed. In fact, not one state in the Bible Belt recognizes same-sex marriage.

The strongest opposition is often for religious reasons and Baptists are often the most outspoken. Including at Northside Baptist Church in Valdosta.

But Pastor Bill Blanchard says he attempts to meet the issue with compassion rather than fire and brimstone.

"I really think the key issue here is how do we define marriage? Do we just leave it up to each individual to define marriage according to what is right in his or her own eyes," asked Pastor Blanchard.

Pastor Blanchard says homosexuality is sin, therefore same-sex marriage is an affront to God. But he gave a sermon in late April where he preached compassion because all people are capable of change.

"It's very important that we draw a distinction between "Homophobia" and "Informed Disapproval". Homophobia of course just means it's an irrational fear. That's not what we are talking about here," said Pastor Blanchard.

Katie and Erica say their search for a place to have their ceremonial wedding has met some resistance. They of course can't get a marriage certificate so some venues have turned them away.

"Even some photographers I have spoken to have said, 'Oh I'll definitely do your wedding but I probably won't blog about it because I might lose some clients,'" Katie said.

These two are taking their time. They plan to have their ceremony in 2014 when they're more financially stable.

Katie and Erica want a traditional wedding. But from brides maid's dresses to wedding cake toppers only being made for men and women, how does a same-sex wedding work?

"Pretty much all the women on my side will be wearing a (tuxedo) just like the regular goom's men do," Erica explains. "Our only challenge is trying to find (tuxedos) that fit because we're so much smaller than everybody else."

"Yeah, cause I'm not wearing a tux. I already have the dress," Katie said.

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  • by Razorback Location: Cabot on May 10, 2012 at 11:30 AM
    Katie is my niece. I have held her as a baby, watched her grow up, and become a woman. She is intelligent, well educated, and very thoughtful. The fact that she is a lesbian does not alter my love and affection for her. I have read the hateful comments written in this blog. I am ashamed of you that profess Christianity that use ugly rhetoric to hurl insults at my niece and Erica. They are in love. They are living together and you can't stop them from being together. But what can one expect from a religion that started in the middle east and where it has died out over the past two thousand years. They are muslem, have multiple wives and Christianity is just a memory. Only in America do you seem proud to be controlling, force your belief systems on others and act as if you have the one true answer to life. Most of you who commented are uneducated, blinded by your hate, and if there is a hell I will see you there. I don't believe in your Bible if it creates people like you. I feel sorry for you. Get a life, stop your affairs, and live like you beleive. Love others, have compassion, and forgive those who sin against you. By the way, that is from your Bible....
  • by Anonymous on May 10, 2012 at 06:05 AM
    Dee, yes, I have a child, a son who fought in Iraq, not once but twice, and who is about to be deployed again, for the rights you so blantantly trample when you try to deny someone else their rights. We lived next to a gay couple for 4 years when he was a tot and guess what? He didn't get infected by the Gay Virus you seem so afraid of.
  • by GOP on May 10, 2012 at 02:54 AM
    Gay marriage is wrong I dont care who you are.Show me any place in the bible or the constitution that recognizes it Just because your liberal President comes out and backs it doesnt mean its right If you rememeber Obama backed solyndra,the chevy volt and all of these stimulus programs This is just a deversion from OBAM to devert peoples attention away from how bad our economy is doing however Jimmy Carter is even more happier now If OBAMA was a true christian like he saids he is ha ha ha he would never have came out in support of this crapola
  • by Anonymous on May 9, 2012 at 04:00 PM
    What we need is a law that says once two people are joined by marriage they cannot EVER legally divorce each other for ANY reason, and neither can remarry until one dies.
    • reply
      by No more laws on May 10, 2012 at 01:15 AM in reply to
      Well there is a scripture that says just that thing except no one follows it except Catholics.
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      by No can do! on May 10, 2012 at 01:44 AM in reply to
      If people will break a vow made to God in a Church, why would they follow a law made by a fascist state?
  • by Jane on May 9, 2012 at 06:47 AM
    Just saw this quote and thought it was perfect for this: " If you have to make a law that hurts other people, just to prove your morals or faith, then you have no true morals or faith to prove."
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      by Anonymous on May 9, 2012 at 04:01 PM in reply to Jane
      That is very well said, Jane. Think you.
  • by Not-Gay and Proud on May 9, 2012 at 06:09 AM
    I don't know what most people think but I am not a gay hater I just don't agree with what they are doing. You cant be a deviant and then try to tell everyone its o.k. and try to push us to accept it. If you ask me they should not be marketing to our children either.
  • by Anonymous on May 8, 2012 at 07:18 PM
    Thank you WCTV for a forum allowing both gays and gay haters to vent. It changes nothing, but keeps them both out of normal folks lives.
  • by Jane on May 8, 2012 at 03:28 PM
    Marriage comes with rights and privileges. So because these two people, who love each other in the same respect of a "man and women" they should be denied these rights? simply because they are of the same sex? If a couple lives their lives as "man and women" they should be give the same rights and privileges!!!
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      by Bubba say on May 8, 2012 at 10:48 PM in reply to Jane
  • by Ladies... on May 8, 2012 at 03:22 PM
    ...I'm not gay, but wish you all the best. You look like a couple of terrific folks.
  • by h on May 8, 2012 at 01:01 PM
    Well when u look like these two ur only choice is girls or blind people
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      by W/E on May 8, 2012 at 03:01 PM in reply to h
      those girls are hot! is ego hurting a little? it's showing.
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      by Neo on May 8, 2012 at 04:17 PM in reply to h
      h must be shorthand for hater.
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